Happy New Year, Happy Best You!
I’m leaving for Big Bear for the weekend, where I’m going skiing, hot-tubbing and vino-ing with a group of friends, so I’m signing off now until 2010. Last night, I sat down and took stock of 2009 in my now yearly tradition, reflecting on the good, the bad, the triumphs and the sadness (on the whole, surprisingly, a very good year!), and just now a friend, the wonderful Sarah Klein of Sarah Klein Coaching, sent me the following. I liked it so much that I wanted to share myself. Here’s to a very successful, happy, fulfilling and loving 2010 for all of you! I love you guys! xo
“It’s not about the pose, it’s about your reaction to the pose.” Over and over I’ve heard this in yoga class the last few weeks. When my standing leg turns to jelly, when I quit while the rest of the class keeps going, or when my arm strength isn’t there and I plop rather than float to the floor, my wonderful, funny yoga teacher, Natalie, softly reminds me, “it’s not about the pose, it’s about your reaction to the pose.” When I lose my balance and topple sideways, Natalie cheerfully calls across the room, ”nice dismount, Terry!” Encouraged, I grin and quickly return to the pose. With her good humor and gentle guidance, I can focus on my present efforts, rather than gnash and thrash about what I didn’t do, how impossibly hard the pose is, or how I’ll never get it right.
If my arms are weak and I don’t pop up into full wheel effortlessly, or at all, it’s fine. My inability to hold chaturanga becomes almost as interesting as my graceful execution of a fully extended dancer’s pose. In that accepting, light-hearted environment, I can stay calm and strong, moving forward with less and less effort, steadily improving even as I topple, wobble, and flop.
Slowly and surely, I progress physically. Little by little, my balance and stamina improves, my legs lift higher, my headstands last longer and become more stable. But the most empowering aspect of this very challenging class is the transformation of my attitude, from one of competition and judgment to a powerful attitude of acceptance. It’s not about the pose.
This same concept will serve us well throughout the rest of the holidays and into the New Year. It’s not about what happens, it’s about our reaction to what happens.
When, despite your very best efforts, life’s challenges still arise (as they always will), what will your reaction be? When the weather changes and your eagerly anticipated plans have to change with it, when loved ones let your down, when life just doesn’t cooperate with you, how will you react? Will you gnash and thrash and struggle? Will you mutter under your breath that it’s too hard, not fair? Will you regretfully scold yourself, tell yourself you should have done better or you should have handled it differently? Will you give up?
Or can you smile, tell yourself “nice dismount,” and jump back in, renewing your efforts? Can you remember what you did well, how you showed up and reached out, how well you communicated, how you stayed calm under fire, took a risk, stayed in your truth, took responsibility, and aligned with your values?
And just as important, will you forgive yourself for the times you didn’t? When you fell out of the pose or didn’t do your best, when you didn’t reach out when you could have, when you were thoughtless and didn’t say the right thing, can you move forward without judgment? Can you let it go, and simply acknowledge that it’s not about what happened? Can you remember it’s always about how you respond this time, right now?
During this time of transition to the New Year, and new beginnings, let’s remind ourselves, over and over, it’s not about the pose. Over and over, we will have the opportunity to answer these questions: How do you want to react? How will you choose to respond?
By remembering this simple truth–It’s not about the pose, it’s about our reaction to the pose–we can stay peacefully empowered, eager to jump back in, ready for the next challenge, and fascinated by the wonder of it all.
Thanks for being here this past year, and have a wonderful, fun, and prosperous New Year!